Today, father while talking to my younger sister about her studies advised her to remember that in no case person has any right to blame others for his failures in life.
These days when my sister is facing problems in her school, my father is busy in motivating her in her studies. I heard him saying that if you’re not succeeding then remember you’re doing something wrong, so instead of blaming others you must try to find faults in yourself.
While hearing conversation between father and my sister, I remember reading Gifted Hands, in the beginning of the book Sonya Carson, mother of Ben Carson, writes a letter in which she shares a poem named “Yourself to Blame” by Mayme White Miller. I like the message of this poem
If things go bad for you
And make you a bit ashamed,
Often you will find out that
You have yourself to blame…
Swiftly we ran to mischief
And then the bad luck came.
Why do we fault others?
We have ourselves to blame…
Whatever happens to us,
Here are the words to say,
“Had it not been for so-and-so
Things wouldn’t have gone that way.”
And if you’re short of friends,
I’ll tell you what to do
Make an examination,
You’ll find that fault’s in you…
You’re the captain of your ship,
So agree with the same
If you travel downward,
You have yourself to blame.
She further writes that remember this as you go through life. The person who has the most to do with what happens to you is you! You make the choices; you decide whether you’re going to give up or ante up when the going gets tough. Ultimately, it’s you who decides whether you will be a success or not, by doing what is legally necessary to get you where you want to go. You are the captain of your own ship.If you don’t succeed, you only have yourself to blame.