You’re the captain of your ship


Today, father while talking to my younger sister about her studies advised her to remember that in no case person has any right to blame others for his failures in life.

These days when my sister is facing problems in her school, my father is busy in motivating her in her studies. I heard him saying that if you’re not succeeding then remember you’re doing something wrong, so instead of blaming others you must try to find faults in yourself.

While hearing conversation between father and my sister, I remember reading Gifted Hands, in the beginning of the book Sonya Carson, mother of Ben Carson, writes a letter in which she shares a poem named “Yourself to Blame” by Mayme White Miller. I like the message of this poem

If things go bad for you

And make you a bit ashamed,

Often you will find out that

You have yourself to blame…


Swiftly we ran to mischief

And then the bad luck came.

Why do we fault others?

We have ourselves to blame…


Whatever happens to us,

Here are the words to say,

“Had it not been for so-and-so

Things wouldn’t have gone that way.”


And if you’re short of friends,

I’ll tell you what to do

Make an examination,

You’ll find that fault’s in you…


You’re the captain of your ship,

So agree with the same

If you travel downward,

You have yourself to blame.

She further writes that remember this as you go through life. The person who has the most to do with what happens to you is you! You make the choices; you decide whether you’re going to give up or ante up when the going gets tough. Ultimately, it’s you who decides whether you will be a success or not, by doing what is legally necessary to get you where you want to go. You are the captain of your own ship.If you don’t succeed, you only have yourself to blame.

Day 1: Quote Challenge (Gifted Hands)

Gifted hands

Success is determined not by whether or not you face obstacles, but by your reaction to them. And if you look at these obstacles as a containing fence, they become your excuse for failure. If you look at them as a hurdle, each one strengthens you for the next”

Back in 2011 was the first time that I heard about the movie adaption of this book and the day I watched the movie, I started looking for its book. I left no book store but unfortunately couldn’t find it. In these past five years the burning desire of reading this book never faded.

It so happened that the other day was my birthday and when I opened my gift I couldn’t believe my eyes. The book of “Ben Carson” was smiling at me.

Indeed, the most surprising and the most precious gift I have ever got is this book. So, this weekend saw me reading this book. At one time my sister literally got angry. For, she needed help in the kitchen and I was so immersed in reading that I literally ignored her.

After, giving such a long background I feel myself compelled to share some of the facts about this book. If you haven’t read this book then find some time to read this beautiful piece of autobiography. This is a story of a ghetto kid of Detroit who despite of all the difficulties in his life managed to become the famous neurosurgeon of the world. Reading this makes you feel a part of this story. This has been written in such an honest way that you’ll find it really hard to get yourself detach from this narrative.

I specifically like reading the opening letter of Ben’s mother. The uneducated lady who knows the importance of education often quotes a poem “Yourself to blame” to her boys.

She says

I often quote one line in particular to them: “You’re the captain of your ship”…

The wise and intelligent mother successfully instills the love for books in her kids. At one occasion Carson writes

By reading so much, my vocabulary automatically improved along with my comprehension”

That self-confidence helps boys in achieving their goals in life. Carson became a doctor and his brother became an Engineer. Ben Carson never forgets to mention some of his case histories. They’re inspirational and dramatic to read. The world famous case of first successful operation of conjoined twins is the story of a great team work.

The flow of the book is superb. The writing is easy and interesting to read. I don’t know if it was only me but while reading it I experienced mixed emotions. I cried, I laughed and I felt a sensation down my spine. And, the moment I reached the last page of the book, I was shocked. I couldn’t believe but the book has already ended.


Many thanks to Deb author of the blog “Once upon a hot flash” for nominating me for this challenge.

This is my second time that I’m participating in this challenge. I’d like to keep nominations open. So, if you’re interested than you’re most welcome to participate 🙂

Movies: Some great moments

(This post is a response to Deb Cowdrey 3 days three quotes challenge. Deb‘s “daily greatful post” is a highly commendable work. She’s a dedicated blogger who writes from her heart.

It’s a bit different approach to this challenge but I enjoyed doing it 🙂 )

In an ordinary day of daily life, some moments become precious and while watching movies, I’ve experienced a similar thing. For, some scenes become so special that the particular time of watching them becomes an “aha moment”.

These scenes make us to feel for a character. We cry with him and a particular dialogue continued to resonate in our minds.

Gifted Hands:

gifted hands

I always cherished the moment when I decided to watch this movie. The true story of a neurosurgeon, Dr Ben Carson is an inspiring tale. He performed a first successful operation on conjoined twins. It’s a story of a child who was living an ignorant life and his mother made him to realize his abilities. Thus, fighting with all difficulties in his life, Carson became a famous neurosurgeon.

The last scene in which the successful team of doctors led by Ben Carson emerged gives me a goose bump. I know that was a movie but the thunderous applause, the flash lights of cameras and the swarm of reporters were all very beautiful.

There are lots of dialogues which I love to share but this one is close to my heart.

“You can do anything anyone else can do. Only you can do it better”.

Pursuit of Happyness:

pursuit of happyness

The inspiring tale of Chris Gardener and his struggle in raising his child on his own is a real treat to watch.

The soft and beautiful sound track complements the movie and the moment in which the Will Smith came to know about his permanent position as a stockbroker is a tissue worthy scene.

This quote from a movie has always inspired me

You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it”.

Captain Philips

capt philips

Tom Hanks in a pirate movie was a sufficient reason to watch it. It’s a true tale of Captain Phillips and his experience of becoming a hostage.

The moment the white knuckled scene of hostage rescue operation ended the compassionate scene of love and care started.

The last scene, in which the doctor examined Philips is my favorite scene. The Phillips was under a great shock, while the calm and soothing voice of a doctor sounds music to ears.

The Great Debaters:

the great debators

The art of public speaking has always inspired me. My main reason of watching that movie was “Denzel Washington”. It’s the true story of Malvin.B.Tolson and his efforts in creating a successful debating team.

The particular scene, in which James Farmer narrates his experience of watching a lynch mob, makes me to shiver. Here is my favorite dialogue from the movie.

In Texas they lynch Negroes. My teammates and I saw a man strung up by his neck and set on fire. We drove through a lynch mob, pressed our faces against the floorboard. I looked at my teammates. I saw the fear in their eyes and, worse, the shame. What was this Negro’s crime that he should be hung without trial in a dark forest filled with fog. Was he a thief? Was he a killer? Or just a Negro? Was he a sharecropper? A preacher? Were his children waiting up for him? And who are we to just lie there and do nothing. No matter what he did, the mob was the criminal. But the law did nothing. Just left us wondering, ‘Why?’ My opponent says nothing that erodes the rule of law can be moral. But there is no rule of law in the Jim Crow south. Not when Negroes are denied housing. Turned away from schools, hospitals. And not when we are lynched. St Augustine said, ‘An unjust law in no law at all.’ Which means I have a right, even a duty to resist. With violence or civil disobedience. You should pray I choose the latter.” – James Farmer Jr.

So, in my opinion the movies can also be a great source of learning. Have you watched these movies? Do you agree with this notion?